Actually I'm not in Japan, and I wanted to write about the reason.
(At first I know that YOU can read it. And I don't care aymore. I wasn't perfect, but I didn't treat you as a SHIT as you did. Nobody's perfect, but it's really nice to have enough good manners to say goodbye properly.And don't lie.)
I was in Japan because I had a boyfriend there. Well, actually it was so lame.
And I;m not a 'fangirl' type. Not at all. I really loved him and I didn't think about him 'japanese'.
Sadly, he was still calling me 'polish girl' within his friends, even though I told him that I'm mixed so I don't want to be called like that. If I knew about it before.
AT FIRST - no, not all of guys are like that. Unfortunatelly, most of guys I MET...
I hope that girls who want to date with japanese will read it and don't make the same mistake as I did.
1. NEVER DATE WITH DAMEO! (good-for-nothing guy)
I heard that a lot of japanese girl don't even go on DATE with a guy who has no work/own money/own flat. And that they're cruel because of that.
Well, now I completely understand WHY.
The number of dameo (dame - dame simply means NO, or something you can't, otoko - man) in japan is impressing. Especially among guys who are 24-30.
These guys have no money, no flat, no work, and they don't even want to have anything. Well, probably still living with parents OR living with girlfriend. That's why NEVER LET SOMETHING LIKE THAT HAPPEN. I knew 3 guys like that. And 2 of them were musicians. Why have no work? MUSICIAN CAN'T HAVE WORK. And there is a question WHY they want to be musician... Probably that's something they think they're good at, but reality is different and they can't understand it. Pretty miserable.
I remember when I started to telling my ex. that he should find any work.. He was 26, and still didn't have anything. But when I was telling him that he was just getting angry and telling me that I SHOULD find a work. (I had no visa to work in Japan, but if I did believe me I would work 24h..). And I was stupid enough to give him all my money, even though I had a little (and I was working for that 2 months 7.30-20.00 everyday).
They're used to that their parents are giving them money, buying and preparing food and what's more paying for phone, internet, games etc. As a bday present it's normal to get about 2000zl...)
And how about that seterotype that WOMAN IS A HOUSEHOLDER and a MAN IS WORKING?
Forget about that. Of course it's still 'living' and there's a lot of guys used to it, but dameo will be different. OK woman should be householder, but she should be working too. And guy? WAIT, WHY DO YOU WANT HIM TO DO SOMETHING? He'll broke his nail if he clean toilet ;__; It'll be terrible, really..
2. MOM, GIVE ME EVERYTHING... NOW.
Type who loves his mother more than everything! This type and dameo goes together in most cases.
Japanese mothers were staying with their children at home. And especially guys weren't allow to go to the kitchen. Kitchen was a place for WOMAN.
Living with parents in Japan is something normal.. Well, it's normal when you have no work etc. but parents can't kick you out and have to give you money and food..
When I was living with my ex. his mother came to house we were living in and she was cleaning dishes, cleaning garden... I know that I wasn't cleaning every single minute, but I was really doing my best.. Anyway I still was 20, I didn't felt like being housewife...
And she was giving us food.. I was really grateful, but still I thought that if it was my parents I wouldn't allow them and I'll go to work and buy food on my own..
I don't know if it's still culture difference or what..
Of course for guy like that girl is just second mother with other options.
Nothing more, sorry. Mom is the best.
3. PLAYBOY.
Especially connect dameo with playboy and you have the worst guy ever.
Never get involved in something with guy who started to talk to you on the street. Probably he's doing it every night or every week...
Anyway in Japan there's still little knowledge about HIV, AIDS and pregnancy... They really don't know about it...
4. OTAKU
If he don't imagine that you're his fav anime character he can't even kiss you.
They really exist...
That's only short ver. of what I wanted to write... I don't want to write personally (I did, I know.. But I don't want to write more...) so you can decide.
If you want use japanese guy just to date with him, better don't do it.
If you want use him and he wants to use you...(that's how most of mixed couples looks like) go ahead. Good luck!
